“If not now, when”? Sometimes I want to ask the question a more direct way, “What are you waiting for?"... "What is your good reason?"

The "Hell Yes" Axiom

Do you remember that camping trip when you awoke and there was a blanket of fog so thick that you couldn’t see the next tent? It can be like that at times in relationships. There’s this foggy zone people encounter in which they can get stuck; it’s an area where feelings are unclear or, god forbid, one person has deeper feelings than the other. This fog causes real, substantial concerns. As a man, a huge question is often whether to persist in courting a woman even when she seems lukewarm or ambiguous about your gentlemanly (we all are gentlemen, right?) advances. For women, a recurring question is what to do with men who fail to make their feelings clear, like it’s a game.

When you gather with friends and family on your time off, on vacation, etc, and they say to you – for the 100th time – “What is it that you do again?” Here’s something you can say that could easily spark a further conversation – either then or down the

Did you ever just “do” things as a kid? Like when you were in grade school, I'll bet you never thought to yourself, “What is the value of learning soccer or hockey? You just ran around the playground, played soccer in the summer and hockey in the winter. You built

Did you ever tell your friends that you’d have everything you wanted by the age of 30? Well, now you're 35 and your life is not that much more organized than when you were 25. If that describes you, you aren’t the only one.

“Life happens, things change, and all that matters is that you’re happy where you’re headed.”

—Elite Daily

For most people, myself included, our 30s included a lot of change, stress, and ambiguity. Now that you're 35, have things worked out just as you would have liked so far? Did you ever climb Mt. Everest? Did you find that perfect life partner? Did you start that business that would change the world? Well, guess what, with the right choices, you still have plenty of time! Shaping your life to have the experiences you want is completely possible. I turned 60 last month. I made it through my 30s, 40s, and 50s in one piece. Even as a life coach, I don’t consider myself an expert on life, but as I reflect on the past, I’m amazed at how much I learned in my 30s. Here are several of the lessons you may learn as you continue through your 30s.

Prospecting in your business can be a lot like dating; to make a good impression, you have to make the other person feel special. I have designed a 90-day program that aims to establish a personalized communication experience with every prospect you meet. I was taught by one of the best prospecting advisors in the industry that prospecting is a bit like dating. To flourish as a professional and figure out whether the person is a good match as quickly as possible, you try to make each date or experience special. In your effort to achieve your goal in prospecting, make every effort to ensure that each touch is as special as possible. Just like dating, prospecting is a time when both you and your prospect are trying to determine if you want to pursue a long-term relationship.

There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.”

―Alain de Botton

A few years back I decided to take stock of my life and see where I was making an impact and where I was just kidding myself. Up to that moment I had been a card-carrying tree grower. I was a farmer who grew trees for landscape use, shipping them up and down the east coast. I was stressed, struggling with a changing market and industry and just generally disgusted with my lot in life. Horticulture, like any form of agriculture, is a 7-day, full-time job. Any thought of work-life balance came from the thought that this was my life…period. Then I read the book Halftime and realized that I needed to consider changes to my life. In time, I stepped out of my business, selling it to my partner and started again with a new direction. I spent a year taking care of my aging father, and what I learned about being in halftime, and work-life balance was that it was easy to balance things when you have little to occupy your time.

I work with a lot of type-A personalities and my day is regularly filled with exhausted people. We all know that experiencing occasional stress can act as a motivator and provide energy boosts that help encourage creative energy and a strong passion to succeed. But un-managed, stress can become toxic especially during times of crisis. Unfortunately, in some quarters exhaustion has become a symbol of virility. That is to say, it has become synonymous with toughness. I was recently having dinner with a client who bragged that he had only gotten four hours of sleep the night before. I felt like saying to him, “You know what? If you had gotten five or six hours, you might not have needed this conversation with me.” I didn’t say that, but it is certainly possible. There are a number of issues with trying to work through exhaustion. We’ll address them point by point.

IF YOU ARE MAKING MISTAKES, IT MEANS YOU’RE OUT THERE DOING SOMETHING. --NEIL GAIMAN, AUTHOR & GRAPHIC NOVELIST

Changing habits is just the same. Habits are created by repetition and changing them takes practice. You practice your habits the same way a baseball pitcher practices his pitch and because it’s practice, count on lots of mistakes…his and yours.